It’s all in the mind. It’s mind over matter. It’s all in your hands.
As much as I know that all this is true, when exactly will I finally know what controlling your mind to get out of an imaginary cage is like? This is not me. I’ve always managed to find the positive side of anxiety. But hello? Human nature? It sucks and it can really be a bitch. The only positive side of it is, you become stronger every time and you learn something new. Like everyone else, I learned from anxiety too. I learned that I’m human. I can’t be perfect. But then I also learned that there are moral and ethical values that have been inbuilt in my brain because of the society I live in and the family I grew up with. So you can either stick to them or change your concepts. The latter takes time and it’s up to you to decide which path you would like to follow. The good news is that, your brain can be rewired but it takes a lot of effort.
Life is about keeping your loved ones happy. You want to be at your best so that you could provide the best to them. That’s when anxiety could get worse, when you know that you have responsibilities but you can’t fulfill them because of how you feel. But that’s the test. You have to get up and fight the feeling. Because at the end of the day, people who love you deserve to have the best version of you. Your list of gratitude needs to have your family, your friends, your partner and all the other people who are important to you. Read that list over and over again so that you know how much The Almighty has blessed you.
It’s hard to find the positive side to anxiety. Especially when you have been living with it for quite a while. Negative emotions, because of their violent nature, take over the positive thinking aspect of the brain very easily which makes it harder to stay calm. But you gotta do what you gotta do. You have to remain positive and it sucks to hear that again and again because of how hard it is. But one day, we will definitely reach the point where we will be able to control our minds, without having our minds control us. I came across one of Peter Breggin’s book about negative emotions and here’s what I learned from it.
- In order to get rid of a negative emotion, you have to feel it.
- Understand your negative emotion and then reject it.
- Reject your negative emotion and then transcend it.
The journey is tough. It seems unbearable. But I am here and I’m telling you that it gets better. It really does get better. Just hold on and fight. Get your nails done and do not let the negative legacy emotions win!