It’s normal to be extremely frustrated when something doesn’t go our way, when we’re in a conflict or when we’re not feeling well. However, when that feeling takes over you, that’s when we have a problem. Whenever an individual gets afflicted with a storm, the storm often makes them believe that they’re being punished and they often try to find answers to the question, why is this happening to me or why is God doing this to me? Why is it that we’re not able to stay calm in such situations? Patience is a virtue and those who are able to master the art of patience are the ones who find themselves calm during the storm and when the storm is over, they realize that they’ve learnt from it without falling apart. It’s not easy to master the art of patience and I won’t lie, I get pretty frustrated too at times but I try my best to remain calm. I feel that patience comes in more when you’re more considerate about others. When you just think about yourself, you’re more bound to get frustrated if things don’t go your way. I find myself getting extremely impatient when I’m unwell. But then I tell myself how the Prophet Ayoub (A.S) was tested by Allah through illness and he lived for many years with patience and faith in his Lord for which he was rewarded.
Most of the times in life things will not go our way. The day we accept the fact that we can’t always get what we want, we have to do things for others for our own peace of mind and the fact that illness comes from God as a trial, we will be able to remain calm. If you want to know whether you’re patient or not, try monitoring your behavior in a traffic jam. It’s almost similar to when you want something so bad in your life that you just can’t wait for it. Everything happens whenever the time is right and the sooner we accept that, the happier we will be! Whenever I find myself being impatient, I meditate. Meditation not only helps me calm my nerves but also helps me live in the present moment. I automatically start to enjoy the journey rather than becoming impatient waiting for the outcome. I’m relatively new to meditation so I sit for straight ten minutes and I find it enough for me. It’s really important to practice patience because of this uncertain world. It’s really easy to fall apart and hard to stay strong and for that it’s important we tell ourselves that if something bad is happening, it’ll pass, if you’re anxiously waiting for a result ask yourself, ‘what’s the worst that’ll happen?’. Imagine how your relationships and work life can be affected because of the anger, outrage or restlessness that comes from impatience. Since balance is really important in life and patience is key to achieving it, we must make it a habit to try and practice patience in everyday life.
Happy Meditation, everyone!